Permanent Locs--Karen

2008-07-31 21:50:47

Hi Karen--

Did you post an album of your locs? I didn't realize you've been locing for a while--I guess I thought you had just started because of the two locs that are still a bit loose.

My family still can't believe my hair is loced, let alone loced up with thread embedded in it!

Tobi
Karen Slay <kay.slay@...

Thanks for your reply. What's so funny is that as I was locking my hair, my mom thought my hair contained thread and I thought she was crazy for thinking such! She was so used to me having such short hair that as it kept growing while it was locing she just couldn't wrap her head around the whole locking process. I'm fully loced and September will be three years. It took probably close to a year for my hair to fully loc and I still have two that are loced only on the ends. I agree with you, it's worth it!

Re: Permanent Locs--Karen

2008-07-31 18:15:34

Thanks for your reply. What's so funny is that as I was locking my hair, my mom thought my hair contained thread and I thought she was crazy for thinking such! She was so used to me having such short hair that as it kept growing while it was locing she just couldn't wrap her head around the whole locking process. I'm fully loced and September will be three years. It took probably close to a year for my hair to fully loc and I still have two that are loced only on the ends. I agree with you, it's worth it!

Re: Mildew

2008-07-31 07:32:07

I have only heard of this happening in VERY humid
environments (i.e., the jungle). I have friends who
volunteered in Burkina Faso for the Peace Corps and it
was so humid that their hair would never dry
completely.

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Leave In Conditioners (Rachel)

2008-07-31 07:00:34

Rachel,

I like sta sof fro also but I hate the smell too! What usually helps me is to get another spray bottle and dilute the sta sof fro with water, some essential oils, and infusium leave in conditioner and a little bit of another conditioner like VO5 or something.

best wishes,

Kim

Rachel White <lynswfe@...

Hi Shay, I apply all of my products on wet hair. I have tried Stay Soft Fro but it doesn't smell so good and it leaves a sticky feel it does give me the shine I'm looking for. I have used the Garnier Fructis Curl Cream. It defines the curls but it leaves my hair hard.
I may be asking for too much LOL. Im going to keep trying. Thanks for you help.

Shay Johnson <sdjonesjohnson@...

are you applying the mango butter to wet or dry hair? I have found that it works better if my hair is a little damp. I would also recommend you try Stay Soft Fro in the brown bottle and/or the garnier fructis products. But the Stay soft fro worked best for me when I wore the TWA.
On 7/17/06, Rachel White <lynswfe@...

Hello everyone,
I need some help! I have a TWA that is about inch long. I think I'm experiencing "SCAB" hair so my hair looks fine but when It dries after my co wash it doesn't feel soft. I discovered that I cant do oils (I've tried olive and almond oils) because they clog my pores and cause my face to break out. I'm co-washing every other day and rinse when i dont co-wash and I'm applying Elasta QP mango butter. I tried the Qhemet Products but they didnt do much of anything but give me a greasy feel. With all that said (LOL) I think I have an oily scalp so what should i do or use to keep my scalp clean but still moisterizer my Scab hair? Please help. Thanks in advance

Rachel

dudu osun soap- meiyama

2008-07-31 00:56:23

I think it depends on the person - Differin totally dried my skin out - it was horrible. Now I am drinking plenty of water (really key) eating healthy - plenty of veggies and using dudu osun fo rthe acne and emu oil for dryness - and it is working!!!!

On 7/20/06, frantzie bazile <febazile@...

I agree. DERMATOLOGIST is key. I'm in my late 20's and my acne would come in
spurts, but very bad ones. I tried over the counter and natural products,
and was even a vegan for two years. Sometimes its just hormones and after
you've tried everyting seeing a specialist is key. Just remember be gentle.
My face has been clear for three years now since seeing my dermatologist.
She referred differin, an antiobitic and a cleanser.

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] 3c Hair Type / Curls Products

2008-07-30 13:16:25

I have tried the curls products. I really like the cream cleanser and the asian tea mask conditioner. I did not like the essential curl moisturizer or the curl enhancement product, whipped cream. It was okay but Garnier Fructis soft curl cream did the same thing for much less.

On 7/19/06, aunatural306 <aunatural306@...

greetings all,
i would like to get some recommendations on 3c hair products. my hair
is naturally curly, but i am looking for good moisturizers that really
work w/o weighing the hair down.
also, is anyone familiar w/ the Curls line of products? i discovered
their website (http://www.curls.biz) & am thinking of trying out some
of their products.
thanks!
nicky

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Mildew--Lina?

2008-07-30 06:47:24

Hi Savvy--

I have heard that locs could mildew if they're constantly damp, especially if the locs are thick, but I let my locs air dry in the summer and so far, I haven't had any problems.

If it does happen, it's probably more likely to happen with loced hair, since it's matted together. Maybe that's why my stylist uses homemade products with antiseptic properties. I can't remember which herbs, etc are antiseptic--I bet Miss Lina would know!

Tobi
savvy sophist <savvysophist@...

Peace all,

Does anyone know if hair can mildew? I know this may seem silly, but some friends of mine insist that going out with a wet head on hot/humid days can cause the hair to smell like mildew, especially when it's thick...hmmm...Can anyone help with this? Loc'ed or loose - any response would help. I go out with my damp hair loose all the time, and I am now afraid of my hair mildewing...yuk!

Be well,
Savvy
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. Max Ehrmann, Desiderata

Braid-Washing Your Hair

2008-07-30 04:16:31

I do something similar to that:

1. plait my hair into small plaits, to expose as much scalp as possible. (the thicker the hair, the more plaits needed).
2. then I mix some herbal / natural shampoo and water (with oil - optional) in a spray bottle.
3. I spray the shampoo concoction on my scalp, as much as I can, and massage / rub it into my scalp until I feel my scalp is truly clean & fresh.
4. then with the plaits still in, I rinse out my scalp / hair.
5. put condition my hair. let the conditioner sit a while, the longer the better - u really can't overdo this part, black folks' hair is DRY!
6. rinse out the conditioner, and oil your scalp, while it's still kinda' damp (to seal in moisture - for folks w/dry, itchy scalp). moisturize the hair, and style as usual. the less heat you use (blow dryer, irons, etc.) the better.

hope this helps. (I got this tip from Sis. Levine in the Netherlands. check out www.naturallyyoumagazine.com for more info.)

dudu osun soap- meiyama

2008-07-29 20:29:40

Frantzie,

I didn't know that differin has an antiobitic and a cleanser. I used to use the gel. I have an appt. with my dermatologist next week I am going to ask him to prescribe the antiobic and cleanser.

Debbie

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Mildew

2008-07-29 17:24:58

Never heard that before! I go out w/"wet heads" periodically, and I never had a "smell" problem. actually, when I put my leave-in conditioner on it, and just let it air dry like that, my hair comes out better - softer, easier to comb, etc.

Mildew

2008-07-29 14:36:45

Peace all,

Does anyone know if hair can mildew? I know this may seem silly, but some friends of mine insist that going out with a wet head on hot/humid days can cause the hair to smell like mildew, especially when it's thick...hmmm...Can anyone help with this? Loc'ed or loose - any response would help. I go out with my damp hair loose all the time, and I am now afraid of my hair mildewing...yuk!

Be well,

Savvy

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. Max Ehrmann, Desiderata

HUMIDITY!

2008-07-29 04:56:41

Holy Moly! I unraveled my twists yesterday stepped outside and
returned with a bush. Has anyone used a product that can tame the
frizzy bushy look? It doesn't look as cute anymore.
Also, when I unravel the twists and wear them out. How can I maintain
that style for at least a lil' more than a week. I put a bonnet on
last night, but my hair is all mushed together and messy. Looks crazy!

Permanent Locs--Karen

2008-07-29 01:34:35

Hi Karen--

Sometimes the thread will fall out on its own--but also, as my hair locs, the thread embeds in the loc. The thread could be cut out, but it is time consuming and I'm fearful of accidently cutting off a loc! I have to keep using the thread because the first two to three inches of new growth does not loc quickly enough for me.

I don't think the thread will cause my locs to break off--in fact, my boyfriend has waist length locs done with the same technique, and his hair is even softer than mine--his roots are very fine with a wavy texture and it takes a really long time for his hair to loc.

Your stylist is right--your hair will loc eventually, but since your hair texture is like mine, I think it will take a long time. It's worth it, though.

The main disadvantage to the thread is that at a close distance you can really see the thread, and also, once again, you would not be able to unloc it. My curly/nappy ends are there because I patiently cut the thread out and then used conditioner to unloc them--I once saw someone's locs in this forum and her curly ends were so cute that I wanted them too! However, some of my hair is curly, some more nappy, so I have curly ends in some sections and little afro puffs in others where the texture is a little different.

Tobi
Karen Slay <kay.slay@...

I never heard of using thread. Are you going to cut it out or is it too late? When I looked at your photos prior to you pointing out the thread in your hair, I was wondering why your roots and ends looked like that. Can that cause your locs to break off at some point? Why wasn't the thread removed once your hair began locing? Your texture resembles mine and I was told at my initial appointment that although my hair is soft it would loc because the curl in my hair would help even though it would take some time. Very interesting!

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Enjoying This Group-Ronica

2008-07-28 21:36:26

Hi Ronica--

Please post the link to your photo album. I look forward to seeing it.

Tobi
ronica427 <ronicamartin@...

I joined this group a few weeks ago and this is my first post...I have
really enjoyed reading the comments you all have made; all of you are
very positive, encouraging women...how refreshing! the resource
information on haircare has been invaluable...the websites, pictures,
recipes, etc., are all greatly appreciated...I was inspired to create
a small photo album..feel free to check it out-
Everyone have a wonderful day!

dudu osun soap- meiyama

2008-07-28 15:39:04

I agree. DERMATOLOGIST is key. I'm in my late 20's and my acne would come in
spurts, but very bad ones. I tried over the counter and natural products,
and was even a vegan for two years. Sometimes its just hormones and after
you've tried everyting seeing a specialist is key. Just remember be gentle.
My face has been clear for three years now since seeing my dermatologist.
She referred differin, an antiobitic and a cleanser.

Re: Unraveling Comb Coils--Permanent Locs

2008-07-28 06:49:32

I never heard of using thread. Are you going to cut it out or is it too late? When I looked at your photos prior to you pointing out the thread in your hair, I was wondering why your roots and ends looked like that. Can that cause your locs to break off at some point? Why wasn't the thread removed once your hair began locing? Your texture resembles mine and I was told at my initial appointment that although my hair is soft it would loc because the curl in my hair would help even though it would take some time. Very interesting!

Enjoying This Group

2008-07-27 23:57:36

I joined this group a few weeks ago and this is my first post...I have
really enjoyed reading the comments you all have made; all of you are
very positive, encouraging women...how refreshing! the resource
information on haircare has been invaluable...the websites, pictures,
recipes, etc., are all greatly appreciated...I was inspired to create
a small photo album..feel free to check it out-
Everyone have a wonderful day!

appreciation by Lina

2008-07-27 19:27:02

Aww thanks Storme Smiley emoticon God and this forum brings out the best in me !

BLessings,

Lina

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] twa care--rose water

2008-07-27 09:26:57

Hi--

Where do you get rose water? Do you make it yourself? Also, please post pictures of your beautiful silver hair--I'm 40 now and can't quite expect the changes in my hair color.

Tobi
artmama52000 <artmama52000@...

Personally, I have found that my twa thrives when I use minimal
products. My hair is about 1/2 inch and is a little curlier than
Jamie Lee Curtis' spiky cut. I use black soap, or whatever soap is
around to wash it that doesn't have kid prints in it and aloe vera gel
to style, or sometimes just plain rose water. While your texture may
be different, one of the benefits of a twa is that hair product lasts
a LOOOOONG time. You may be surprised at hoe little you need to get
the effect you want. I also think that an added benefit is that it
causes people to look at YOU, your face, the glow in your eyes, to pay
attention to what you say etc. I have had one off and on since
college, and I'll never grow back. Can't wait until more silver comes
in, just turned 42 yesterday, and got it trimmed really close, so I am
in luuv with it now!!. Hope all of that helps
artmama6

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Unraveling Comb Coils--Permanent Locs

2008-07-27 01:05:34

Hi--

I think I posted before that my hair is loced with thread--it's a good technique for hair that's difficult to loc, but sometimes the thread shows. There's a close-up picture where it shows the thread in my fotki album:

http://public.fotki.com/tvelicia/locs

The thread is tied at the root of the hair. Eventually the hair will loc--sometimes the thread embeds within the loc, or loose thread will fall out. That's the only thing I don't like about that technique. Also, these locs will not come out--the thread makes them permanent!

Tobi
I am also locing my hair. My loctician used ors gel to start my comb coils and they didn't fall out. I could not wash my hair for 3 weeks to give them time to settle. I go to her every 2 weeks for a wash and palm roll. It will be 6 months at the end of this month.I can see it"s going to take a lot of time for my hair to loc. The back is coming along, but the top is still in spirals.. I have a soft texture of hair 3c to 4a Hope this helps. Valerie

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] To all the Bon Jovi Fans in the House...

2008-07-27 00:05:08

Roxanne,

I know what you mean girl !! I used to not attend stuff because I could get anyone else to go with me . Those days are over . I just saw Madonna's Confession Tour, I danced till my feet went numb.

God Bless

Storme

To all the Bon Jovi Fans in the House...

2008-07-26 14:21:49

Hi Kim & Everyone,

I wasn't able to check in for awhile; but imagine how surprised I was to see the ongoing discussion about the types of music that we love. It is too funny that there are so many Bon Jovi, Maroon 5 and other fans on this forum. "Shock to the heart..." Every time I hear that song I get into the whole deal. Funny!

Too bad some of you aren't here in Ohio - I get tired of being the being one of only 5 black people at these concerts. LOL

And Kim, the link to my Fotki album is at the bottom of my sig line.

Peace,

Roxanne Ravenel

Founder & Chief Executive DiVA

Virtual DiVAs

Set Your Inner DiVA Free

www.VirtualDiVAs.org

Email: Support@...

Join Virtual DiVAs for the Fr*e Teleclass -

Cleanse Thy Temple - Why You Might be a Toxic DiVA

With Terri Gibbons

on Wednesday, July 26^th at 7:30PM EST

Check out my Fotki Album at: http://public.fotki.com/virtualdiva/

RE: [Naturally You! eCommunity] In need of some help....

2008-07-26 04:55:18

Hi Roxanne from Ohio that relocated to Kobe, Japan. I am Roxanne, still living in Ohio. J This group is an incredible resource for info on living the natural lifestyle.

Regards,

Roxanne Ravenel

Founder & Chief Executive DiVA

Virtual DiVAs

Set Your Inner DiVA Free

www.VirtualDiVAs.org

Email: Support@...

Join Virtual DiVAs for the Fr*e Teleclass -

Cleanse Thy Temple - Why You Might be a Toxic DiVA

With Terri Gibbons

on Wednesday, July 26^th at 7:30PM EST

Check out my Fotki Album at: http://public.fotki.com/virtualdiva/

twa care

2008-07-26 04:21:43

Personally, I have found that my twa thrives when I use minimal
products. My hair is about 1/2 inch and is a little curlier than
Jamie Lee Curtis' spiky cut. I use black soap, or whatever soap is
around to wash it that doesn't have kid prints in it and aloe vera gel
to style, or sometimes just plain rose water. While your texture may
be different, one of the benefits of a twa is that hair product lasts
a LOOOOONG time. You may be surprised at hoe little you need to get
the effect you want. I also think that an added benefit is that it
causes people to look at YOU, your face, the glow in your eyes, to pay
attention to what you say etc. I have had one off and on since
college, and I'll never grow back. Can't wait until more silver comes
in, just turned 42 yesterday, and got it trimmed really close, so I am
in luuv with it now!!. Hope all of that helps
artmama6

Re: Unraveling Comb Coils

2008-07-26 02:50:24

Are you going to a salon or doing your own hair?

Your hair isn't going to loc overnight. Give it some time particularly if your hair is soft.

My hair did the same in the beginning and it still does and I have been loced for almost 3 years and I have soft hair. Even now, one or two days after I do maintenance on my hair the back will unravel. I went to a loctician every two weeks in the beginning because I didn't Iike my hair looking messy and because my hair was used to being washed daily, so after a couple of weeks my scalp demanded washing. My loctician told me the last 2-3 rows would be the first to loc and I didn't believe her because they never stayed in. Stop combing out your coils because they will never loc if you keep disturbing the locing process; tighten them instead. What I did in the early stages was keep a scarf on my head when sleeping, bathing, cleaning or anything that would cause me to sweat. I would clip my hair down at night when I slept and that helped a bit. Consider the moisture when you shower, perspire, etc. all of which will make your hair loosen. When you shower, tie your hair
down with a scarf and then put on a shower cap or forego the shower cap altogether. The early stages are the most difficult and be prepared for your hair to take months to loc. I didn't really see major lockage until 6-7 months because of my texture and I still have 2 locs that are only loced on the ends. Be patient because it is truly worth it and it's one of the best decisions I've made.

3c Hair Type / Curls Products

2008-07-25 16:01:29

greetings all,
i would like to get some recommendations on 3c hair products. my hair
is naturally curly, but i am looking for good moisturizers that really
work w/o weighing the hair down.
also, is anyone familiar w/ the Curls line of products? i discovered
their website (http://www.curls.biz) & am thinking of trying out some
of their products.
thanks!
nicky

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Unraveling Comb Coils

2008-07-25 09:34:20

I am also locing my hair. My loctician used ors gel to start my comb coils and they didn't fall out. I could not wash my hair for 3 weeks to give them time to settle. I go to her every 2 weeks for a wash and palm roll. It will be 6 months at the end of this month.I can see it"s going to take a lot of time for my hair to loc. The back is coming along, but the top is still in spirals.. I have a soft texture of hair 3c to 4a Hope this helps. Valerie

Share your hair care routine!

2008-07-25 05:51:42

Hi Ladies & Gents,
I have already emailed a few of you off-list about publishing your
haircare routine at NaturallyYouMagazine.com. I wanted to extend the
invitation out to the group to participate in our Natural Hair Care
Product Report, a new section on our website which will help all of us
find the best products to use on our precious natural hair.
Here's how to participate:
* Send your hair care routine and/or product recommendations to
kcasper@.... If you have already posted it to the
group, let me know.
* In your email, include your name and state.
* If you would like to, include a photo of yourself. This is optional.
Selected responses will be published on our website:
http://www.naturallyyoumagazine.com/natural-hair-style-product-regimen.html
Hope to hear from you soon.
Peace~
Kaya Casper
www.NaturallyYouMagazine.com

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Leave In Conditioners

2008-07-24 21:56:16

are you applying the mango butter to wet or dry hair? I have found that it works better if my hair is a little damp. I would also recommend you try Stay Soft Fro in the brown bottle and/or the garnier fructis products. But the Stay soft fro worked best for me when I wore the TWA.

On 7/17/06, Rachel White <lynswfe@...

Hello everyone,
I need some help! I have a TWA that is about inch long. I think I'm experiencing "SCAB" hair so my hair looks fine but when It dries after my co wash it doesnt feel soft. I discovered that I cant do oils (I've tried olive and almond oils) because they clog my pores and cause my face to break out. I'm co-washing every other day and rinse when i dont co-wash and I'm applying Elasta QP mango butter. I tried the Qhemet Products but they didnt do much of anything but give me a greasy feel. With all that said (LOL) I think I have an oily scalp so what should i do or use to keep my scalp clean but still moisterizer my Scab hair? Please help. Thanks in advance

Rachel

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Music &amp; Hair coloring

2008-07-24 20:11:56

It is very uplifting, isn't it? Good luck with the hair coloring and take lots of pictures! I know I can't wait to see the new look.

best wishes,

Kim
Hi All

It gives my heart a lift to read the comments about enjoyment of so many types of music among my friends and co workers I really stand out because of my love for the Roots, the Peas ,Sting, Madonna, David Bowie on and on . I have been asked many times you really like them?
I knew I was not the only sister who goes for all kinds of music , but it is so good to see it in black and white.
I will let you know how the hair coloring goes on Thursday ,I am looking forward to seeing my old self in the mirror.

God Bless
Storme

Unraveling Comb Coils

2008-07-24 12:25:25

Hi Ladies,
Does anyone know how to prevent comb coils from unraveling? I have 4A/B
hair, about 2.5 inches long, and no matter what I do the coils at the
bottom/back of my head always unravel after about three days. I have
tried sleeping in a stocking cap, wrapping my head with a silk scarf,
and even sleeping on my stomach. So far nothing seems to help. I am
trying to lock my hair, but I always end up taking it down after a
couple of weeks because the back of my head looks unkempt. What am I
doing wrong?
Thanks in advance,
Sandra

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Let's Meet this Friday in Philly!

2008-07-24 01:50:42

Thank for sending - I will definitely try to make it. I have seen Monica perform and she is truly off the hook - the woman in fiyah!!

Here is the info for all in or near Philly -

Kira

Opening Reception:
Friday July 21, 2006
5:30-8:30pm
With musical selections by Monica Macintyre

Works on exhibit
July 14-August 5, 2006
Gallery Hours:
Mon-Fri 12-6pm,Sat-Sun 9am-noon

The University City Arts League
4226 Spruce Street
Philadelphia, PA 19104
(215)382-7811

On 7/18/06, Kaya Casper <kcasper@...

Hello All~
This Friday, there is an art exhibit in Philadelphia, featuring
handmade ceramic platters by a fellow natural sistah, Stefani Threet.
The sistah's work is bad! (Not bad meaning bad but bad meaning good!
Remember that?)
The platters were created based on interviews with African American
women about African American men - specifically focusing on
father/daughter relationships. I am one of the women who was
interviewed. I would love to meet you, and this would be a great place
for those of you who are located in the Philadelphia are to meet each
other as well.
Monica McIntyre, another extremely talented natural sistah, will be
performing - she is a songwriter, singer, and cellist.
www.MonicaMcIntyre.com
Don't miss it! Hope to see you there.
www.ThreetCeramics.com
Peace~
Kaya Casper
www.NaturallyYouMagazine.com

Music &amp; Hair coloring

2008-07-24 00:39:33

Hi All

It gives my heart a lift to read the comments about enjoyment of so many types of music among my friends and co workers I really stand out because of my love for the Roots, the Peas ,Sting, Madonna, David Bowie on and on . I have been asked many times you really like them?

I knew I was not the only sister who goes for all kinds of music , but it is so good to see it in black and white.

I will let you know how the hair coloring goes on Thursday ,I am looking forward to seeing my old self in the mirror.

God Bless

Storme

Re: Leave In Conditioners

2008-07-23 20:58:56

I've been using Carol's Daughter products for almost two months now
and I love the Hair Milk (its specifically for curly hair) and the
Ocean Herbal Shampoo and Hyacinth & Hibiscus Leave-In Conditioner
(both are for oily hair). Also I've been using Oyin handmade
products. I got the sample pack and am quickly falling in love with
the Greg Juice, Hemp Honey Conditioner and the Shine & Define
Styling Serum. My hair was really dry, dull and brittle prior to
using these products and now its soft, supple, moist and shiny even.
http://www.carolsdaughter.com/
http://oyinhandmade.com/oyin/

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Elasta QP mango Butter

2008-07-23 08:19:13

Awo,
If you go to elastaqp.com and type in your zip code, a list of stores will come
up. Melissa

Let's Meet this Friday in Philly!

2008-07-23 02:31:50

Hello All~
This Friday, there is an art exhibit in Philadelphia, featuring
handmade ceramic platters by a fellow natural sistah, Stefani Threet.
The sistah's work is bad! (Not bad meaning bad but bad meaning good!
Remember that?)
The platters were created based on interviews with African American
women about African American men - specifically focusing on
father/daughter relationships. I am one of the women who was
interviewed. I would love to meet you, and this would be a great place
for those of you who are located in the Philadelphia are to meet each
other as well.
Monica McIntyre, another extremely talented natural sistah, will be
performing - she is a songwriter, singer, and cellist.
www.MonicaMcIntyre.com
Don't miss it! Hope to see you there.
www.ThreetCeramics.com
Peace~
Kaya Casper
www.NaturallyYouMagazine.com

Elasta QP mango Butter

2008-07-23 00:44:49

Hi, all. I'd like to try the Elasta QP mango butter. Does anyone know
where I can get some in the DC/Maryland area?
Be blessed,
Awo

Birthday Reminder

2008-07-22 13:44:27

Birthday Reminder from the Calendar of Naturally_You
Natural Anniversary
Tuesday July 25, 2006
All Day
This event repeats every year.
The next reminder for this event will be sent in 6 days.
Notes:
I've been natural 1 year

[Naturally You! eCommunity] Pantene H.C.

2008-07-22 07:52:19

Hi NICOLE,
Any beauty supply store should have it such as Sally's or try
drugstores like CVS, Walmart, Eckerds, etc. Where do you live? Does
such stores exist in your area? The product type would be towards the
bottom of the label.

Great Fokti Album/kimmy

2008-07-22 02:15:33

I agree with you guys. My father is a musician and I grew up listening to everything from classical to new age. As black people we hate to be stereotyped by others but a lot of times we box ourselves in by having all of these rules about what is acceptable. I listen to James Blount, I just bought The Fray's and Red hot chili pepper's new album, I also Have T.I. every Jay-z record every recorded and Josh Grobin. What I listen to is not a reflection on my race nor is it me "actin white'. Its the same with books, movies etc.

Looking for Advice/frantziebazile

2008-07-21 23:52:49

Thanks for the info...I have to use that one about the drano...

[Naturally You! eCommunity] for Kascha

2008-07-21 13:16:01

Hi Kascha,
I have attached some hair recipes for you. Just open by clicking onto
the Word document. I hope that it's helpful - let me know the outcome
if you try any.
Best wishes,
Di

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Trina

2008-07-21 11:24:17

Trina,
I TOTALLY understand your fears and concerns. At one time I would NEVER
give consideration to locking my hair. Not that I'm against
regular/organic locs, but when I learned about sisterlocks, I knew that
I had to have them (and hopefullly will by the end of this year). There
is SO MUCH versatility with sisterlocks. Check out the link with styles
and explore the website to get a better understanding:
http://sisterlocks.com/PhotoGallery.html
Best wishes,
Di

[Naturally You! eCommunity] dr miracle......racist advertisment

2008-07-20 23:51:10

In order to have some impact (hit the pockets) of this company we need to also contact the Black publications that are accepting money to run these ads. If RadioOne (Black owned) is running ads on their stations they should also be targeted.

Our dollars are contributing to Johnson Publications (Ebony, Jet, Fashion Fair etc), Essence etc. They understand the bottom line, money.

If a serious grass roots effort was launched to put this company out of business or at least discontinue the degrading ads we'd see a change overnight.

Nuff said.

Jazzy R

Stand for something, or fall for anything.

RE: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Emu Oil

2008-07-20 20:54:46

I purchased Emu Oil from www.fromnaturewithlove.com and I can highly recommend it. It really helps with dry skin. My daughter has extremely dry, very sensitive skin and I can honestly say that Emu Oil has really helped to keep her skin moist without being greasy. I've also started using it in a dry oil mist that I use on my hair (and now my daughter's too). I love it.

I've also started using Rice Brand Oil as well. It too is great.

Just found a website that raves highly about it's Emu Oil and what benefits it has. Has anyone tried it or any other products within that range? I stumbled across the site by accident - so would be greatful of any sincere replies, before I decide to purchase.

Thanks everyone!!

Sharon - London UK

www.hair-energizer.com

Leave In Conditioners

2008-07-20 16:45:05

Hello everyone,

I need some help! I have a TWA that is about inch long. I think I'm experiencing "SCAB" hair so my hair looks fine but when It dries after my co wash it doesnt feel soft. I discovered that I cant do oils (I've tried olive and almond oils) because they clog my pores and cause my face to break out. I'm co-washing every other day and rinse when i dont co-wash and I'm applying Elasta QP mango butter. I tried the Qhemet Products but they didnt do much of anything but give me a greasy feel. With all that said (LOL) I think I have an oily scalp so what should i do or use to keep my scalp clean but still moisterizer my Scab hair? Please help. Thanks in advance

Rachel

YOU CAN TAKE OUT YOUR LOCS

2008-07-20 06:45:20

Hey, yall. i was looking for something to take out my braids and came
across this product that say it can take out you locs.
www.braidsout.com/mambo3/--- this is the website read on

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] It's My Naturalversary!!!

2008-07-20 06:21:20

browncerrisa,

Good for you ! don't worry about a guy who wants to know how you will wear your hair for a date . A man like that is not worth a quarter.

God Bless

Storme

Hair coloring

2008-07-19 21:36:46

Hello All,

I looked at my locks and decided to color them back to its natural dark brown color, I have had a lot of fun with different shades of highlights but with the gray coming in its starting to look a bit too much. I don't mind gray, but it doesnt go well with the highlights .

When I told my son he simply said " Good " !

At Penns Landing in Philly a African American Cultural Fest will be held in late August maybe some of the local members can meet there . Let me know what you think.

God Bless

Storme

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] New Products

2008-07-19 17:23:26

Hi Everyone--

While reading Essence yesterday, I came across an article about hair products for natural hair developed by a Black woman--the website is www.curljunkie.com.

Tobi
poypoy519 <poypoy@...

Lanolin does clog pores as the other sister said, not a good product
to use on hair...Also, ACV is also used as a last rinse after rinsing
out your conditioner and the smell does not last....

Re: dr miracle......racist advertisment

2008-07-19 14:51:36

I saw these advertisements a few months ago and was absolutely appalled! I cannot believe these black women actually performed this way for these advertisements period but especially since Dr. Miracles is a white man! How can we make any progress when we are the ones continuously setting our own people back? These ads set us back decades! Black people will never advance to the heights we are capable of if we do not take responsibility, relinquish our selfishness to think beyond personal gain to instead act on behalf of the greater good for our race.

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] It's My Naturalversary!!!-Reesey

2008-07-19 01:10:02

Hi Reesey--

What site is your hair album on?

Tobi
Reesey <browncerissa@...

) How many years have you been natural today?
1 year
2) Did you Big Chop?
I did more than chop!! I shaved my head completely bald!
3) If yes, how did you feel afterward?
I was very depress at first!
4) What was your greatest motivation to go natural?
Really I didn't have a choice because I had overprocessed my hair and it was falling out. And I gave myself a year without chemicals to get my hair back healthy. But about 6 months into being natural I truly fell in love with it.
5) What are some styles you're excited about trying in the coming year?
I really want to try box braids with my natural hair.
6) Do you have a hair role model? If yes, who?
I know this is going to sound cheesey but my hair role model is not anyone famous. It is all of YOU! Whenever I get down or feel like I'm want to perm my hair. I start going through the photo albulms of people on this site and say "I want my hair to be like that." And I have to keep telling myself length doesn't happen over night. You guys encourage me even though you don't know it.
7) What are your favorite hair care products, regimen and style?
I Cowash and I use Garnier Fructis products.
8) How have you changed since going natural?
I have gained more confidience. I use to be one to count on people to tell me how beautiful I was but when I cut my hair the only people that complimented me was my Mother and Daughter so I had to realize for myself how beautiful I was. And now that I have that confidience I really feels it projects on the outside also.
9) What has been your hardest or most rewarding lesson learned since going natural?
It was really hard in the very beginning but now its not so bad. But I do notice that Men don't seem to ask me out as much anymore. Or if they do ask me out they have the nerves to ask me how I'm going to wear my hair. So I prefer to stay in because I refuse to change for anyone.
I also loaded a few of my hair photos on the groups photo page if you want to take a look at my progress. My screen name is Browncerissa

RE: [Naturally You! eCommunity] How to Perfect a Braid Set

2008-07-18 21:05:44

I think that you've done well with purchasing Kinky-Curly, I've heard nothing but good things about the product...let us know how it comes out.

Livin' Life As If It's Golden!!

Maxine

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Picture Album-Cecilia

2008-07-18 11:02:52

Hi Cecilia--

All of your pictures are beautiful, but I really love your curls!

Tobi
Cecilia Belton <cecilia_belton@...

I just finished creating my picture album, tell me what u all think

http://public.fotki.com/cece968/
Watch your Thoughts, they become words
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your Actions, they become habits
Watch your Habits, they become character
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny
Cecilia N. Belton

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Picture Album

2008-07-18 07:08:11

Congrats on your big chop!
Your TWA is adorable. :)
--
Brunsli
2+ years
www.brunsli.blogspot.com
www.brunsli.com

On 7/16/06, Cecilia Belton <cecilia_belton@...

I just finished creating my picture album, tell me what u all think

http://public.fotki.com/cece968/
Watch your Thoughts, they become words
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your Actions, they become habits
Watch your Habits, they become character
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny
Cecilia N. Belton

Picture Album

2008-07-18 03:45:02

I just finished creating my picture album, tell me what u all think

http://public.fotki.com/cece968/

Watch your Thoughts, they become words
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your Actions, they become habits
Watch your Habits, they become character
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny
Cecilia N. Belton

How to Perfect a Braid Set

2008-07-17 22:52:39

Hi,
I am struggling... I have been all the way natural for about 1 month
but transitioned for a yr. One day in an extremely frustrated state of
mind (I am studying for the BAR exam) I cut off the perm myself...
Since then i have been looking for a quick fix until after the BAR
when I have time to really experiment. Anyway I have been trying to
successfully learn to do a twist set. Is there a magical number of
braids or product you should use?? I braid my hair in sections.. use
setting lotion.. yesterday i used some oil too and ONE braid looked
really nice when i took it out.. the rest was ok but big and frizzy..
My hair is a wavy curly mix when wet but extremely THICK and when it
drys it turns into a frizz balland loses its curl.. It also stays dry
no matter what I do (i have purchased some carol daughter and kinky
curly) and am amxiously awaiting its arrival.. THank goodness for
credit cards they need to come down on thse prices But anyway any
advice would be greatly appreciated.

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] product questions - ACV

2008-07-17 20:06:49

ACV has many uses -

It is a great hair detoxifier and can be used as a hair rinse, and even a shampoo, as it removes residue and impurities from the scalp and hair. Always followup with a good moisturizer or carrier oil on damp hair or skin.

ACV also seems to brighten the little color I have left on my hair - the pH level helps the core and cuticle retain deposited color somehow - dont know all the cosmetology lingo, but it works.

ACV is also great for relieving the itchies - anywhere! Mosquito bites, flaky skin or scalp, all benefit from a swipe of ACV with a cotton ball, or even spary into a spritz bottle. I recently made a great scalp tonic using ACV and you could see the dirt lifting as I massaged it into my client's scalp. His hair was tingling for quite a while :0)

Not only does it purify the outside, but a tablespoon can be added to hot water with a bit of honey and used as a blood purifier and cleanser. helps to regulate PH levels in the tissues.

THere are probably other uses - mom uses it to wipe windows, mirrors and glass - streakfree. I know it does some serious cleansing without being harsh, but dilute it when you use as a rinse or tonic. A small amount can be used full strength on small areas of skin.

Hope that helps.

FYI - Lanolin is the skin secretion of sheep - sorta animal sebum, if you will - many people react to this ingredient in creams and lotions, and dont know it.

Blessings!
Lina

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] dr miracle......racist advertisment

2008-07-17 08:26:46

I saw the ads a while back....it is a disgrace. Can you share which other forums you frequent with us?

best wishes,

Kim
i frequent several nappy hair forums and came across this
http://www.petitiononline.com/Drmir227/petition.html
if you ahven't seen the adversitment her is the web site and some smaples
http://www.drmiracles.com/images/veron1-pg.jpg
http://www.drmiracles.com/ make sure to hear the radio ad to
http://www.drmiracles.com/chicago.html
here is the owner http://www.jinny.com/OTC/issues04/march_manufacturer.htm
i personally was offended, but everyoe may not feel the same. just thought i'd spread the info
love and other indoor sports
kitty smith
(kitty's quotes of the week)
He was a karate expert, but one day he joined the army, saluted, and killed himself.
+
Last week I stated this woman was the ugliest woman I had ever seen. I have since been visited by her sister and now wish to withdraw that statement. (Mark Twain)
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Re: Natural Hair salons in Chicago, IL and Oakland, CA

2008-07-17 04:51:27

I can only recommend searching the web for salons near your vacation
destination &/or if you see someone with locs, fros etc stop them and
ask them who/where. Good Luck

It's My Naturalversary!!!

2008-07-16 18:05:14

) How many years have you been natural today?
1 year
2) Did you Big Chop?
I did more than chop!! I shaved my head completely bald!
3) If yes, how did you feel afterward?
I was very depress at first!
4) What was your greatest motivation to go natural?
Really I didn't have a choice because I had overprocessed my hair and it was falling out. And I gave myself a year without chemicals to get my hair back healthy. But about 6 months into being natural I truly fell in love with it.
5) What are some styles you're excited about trying in the coming year?
I really want to try box braids with my natural hair.
6) Do you have a hair role model? If yes, who?
I know this is going to sound cheesey but my hair role model is not anyone famous. It is all of YOU! Whenever I get down or feel like I'm want to perm my hair. I start going through the photo albulms of people on this site and say "I want my hair to be like that." And I have to keep telling myself length doesn't happen over night. You guys encourage me even though you don't know it.
7) What are your favorite hair care products, regimen and style?
I Cowash and I use Garnier Fructis products.
8) How have you changed since going natural?
I have gained more confidience. I use to be one to count on people to tell me how beautiful I was but when I cut my hair the only people that complimented me was my Mother and Daughter so I had to realize for myself how beautiful I was. And now that I have that confidience I really feels it projects on the outside also.
9) What has been your hardest or most rewarding lesson learned since going natural?
It was really hard in the very beginning but now its not so bad. But I do notice that Men don't seem to ask me out as much anymore. Or if they do ask me out they have the nerves to ask me how I'm going to wear my hair. So I prefer to stay in because I refuse to change for anyone.
I also loaded a few of my hair photos on the groups photo page if you want to take a look at my progress. My screen name is Browncerissa

dr miracle......racist advertisment

2008-07-16 13:50:17

i frequent several nappy hair forums and came across this
http://www.petitiononline.com/Drmir227/petition.html
if you ahven't seen the adversitment her is the web site and some smaples
http://www.drmiracles.com/images/veron1-pg.jpg
http://www.drmiracles.com/ make sure to hear the radio ad to
http://www.drmiracles.com/chicago.html
here is the owner http://www.jinny.com/OTC/issues04/march_manufacturer.htm
i personally was offended, but everyoe may not feel the same. just thought i'd spread the info
love and other indoor sports
kitty smith
(kitty's quotes of the week)
He was a karate expert, but one day he joined the army, saluted, and killed himself.
+
Last week I stated this woman was the ugliest woman I had ever seen. I have since been visited by her sister and now wish to withdraw that statement. (Mark Twain)
The Salary Calculator: relocation, cost of living, real estate

Re: Great Fokti Album/kimmy

2008-07-16 12:35:11

Stop it! You had me singing that song and dancing . .AEIOUUUUUuu and
sometimes Y.
That was THE jam!
bye

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Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] product questions

2008-07-16 00:47:25

lanolin can cause breakouts and clog pores. my understanding is it's
a byproduct of sheep. I usually don't use products that have lanolin
in it if I can help it. not when there's almond oil, jojoba oil, and
olive oil, which i think are better for the hair anyway.
don't know too much about the uses of acv on the hair...can you use it
on loose hair?

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] urgent...natural....household...conditioners

2008-07-15 20:48:04

old reliable, olive oil and honey

urgent...natural....household...conditioners

2008-07-15 15:19:32

Does anyone have a recipe to home made condtioners

Thank you for your time and consideration,
Have a blessed day.
With thought and prayer,
Kascha [INLINE]

nappy and colorful

2008-07-15 08:30:00

This situation is not only indicative of the U.S. You should read the book by Marita Golden called Don't Play In The Sun. It is all over the world. In Africa the women put bleaching cream on their faces until it turns raw trying to get lighter so they can get a man. They are called them bleachers. Some women put the cream all over their bodies. This cream causes cancer when used like this, but they don't care. They are willing to pay the price to get a husband. Valerie

Natural Hair salons in Chicago, IL and Oakland, CA

2008-07-14 21:53:02

Hello Everyone-
I recently found this site and I've enjoyed reading through all the posts. There
is such
great advice and tips.
I did the big chop (myself) in March of this year and since I don't really know
how to cut
hair I need some help. I have spots where there is still a little perm at the
ends and my hair
is quite uneven. I'm in desperate need of a trim because I have spit ends and
knotting as
well. I haven't yet found a shop where I live (Oakland, CA) that I trust to even
out my afro
and get my natural hair back in shape.
I'll be in Chicago on vacation next week and wondered if any of you know of a
good salon
where I can at least get a haricut. I'd also like to know if anyone knows of any
shops in
Oakland, CA that have good hair care specialists. I tried Oh, my nappy hair and
had a
horrible experience there, I will not return.
Thanks in advance for your help.

nappy and colorful

2008-07-14 15:23:52

WOW !!!! I mean, like damn!!! [INLINE]
thanks for posting this!
Topaz <mstopaz04@...

i think it's sad that we still dog each other based on appearance
(sp). i'm light skinned...and when i was in school i got called 'high
yellow ho', 'halfbreed' even though both of my parents are black, and
worse. i'm also a size 0. so i hear hatefull comments about thin
women all the time. got called 'tooth pick' and 'bean pole' (among
other things), and was even told that i was shaped like a 'white
girl'. i guess because i don't have big round 't' and 'a'. got
called 'wanna be white' too. guess that one was because i speak
'proper' english.
when i went natural noone really made any comments...at least to my
face anyway. i've had a hair 'stylist' not be able to cut my
hair...and told me that people with 'my kind of hair' should keep it
real short. i thought that comment was interesting seeing as this
person makes a living doing people's hair. as far as the 'men' go...i
really don't give a damn (i'm keeping it clean y'all) what any of them
think about how i look. i don't knock myself out trying to attract
anyone anyway. i do what pleases me, and i kind of like being invisible.
can't wait to hear the 'comments' when i lock my hair. hope there
ready for my response...'cause i probably won't be kind with it.
:)

[Naturally You! eCommunity] Updated Fotki Album-Tobi

2008-07-14 07:32:46

Tobi

I really love dreads esp. on men. I love the way they look. My concern is that I will get bored with them and cut them off and have to start all over again. Which is not a bad thing, but I don't know if I want to do that again. Plus, I don't know how my husband will feel about that. I really do value his opinion when it comes to hair and fashion. He does adapt to change very well. I think the biggest problem is just me. It just insecurities about myself and how I am perceived by others. Something I have dealt with for years, that clouds my judgment with just about all my decisions. So hopefully I will get past this soon. I know we were talking about hair, sorry for going off the subject.

Trina

nappy and colorful

2008-07-14 04:57:52

thanks for posting this...I think a fine example of this is Mo' Nique !!!!!
I think we have to be careful what we place in our own individual minds because as a woman thinketh...so it is. I read a quote once about how people say to us the very things we hold in our subconscious mind. Let's take India.Arie for example. She makes it her business to let the world know that yes, I've been through some things but through it all I've learned to love myself TOTALLY. She is not mainstream Hollywood, but people embrace her because she embraces herself.

I think sometimes WE THINK that other people THINK that we're ugly, nappy headed, too light, too dark, whatever. And that may be true but what do WE THINK about ourselves? What I've realized is that we all products of our childhood. As a child I thought I was awkward, ugly, all that, but as an adult I realize that as a child we are hard on ourselves. As children we say mean things to each other. As children, we speak without thinking. As children we want to fit in. As children we're sensitive to any and every comment about us. But as adults, we have to forgive the children who said bad things about us because guess what? They were just kids being kids. As an adult we must forgive ourselves for being less than what we thought society expected of us. We must first forgive ourselves and love ourselves.

It's not always about slavery. It's about right here and right now. Our ancestors go waaaay back, before slavery as Kings and Queens forreal! I'm still learning this myself. But regardless of what WAS, we have to deal with what IS and that's the person we look at everyday in the mirror.

Be Blessed,
Kareema
Wash, DC

Re: I think I may have messed up..../lizz

2008-07-14 00:19:27

I don't think so but then again your hair is kind of fine. I was
blow drying my daughter's hair with no issue. It always went back.
:-) But her hair is more coarse than yours. But, I did use flat iron
on her ends of braids one time. . . something new and to balance out
her preteen urges . . . .i think the iron was too hot and I did end up
clipping some of the ends . . .they got wavy but never back to the
coarse texture of before.
Wait and see.

Re: Box Braids

2008-07-13 21:01:46

your photo album is awesome!!!!
And I appreciate everyone sharing their photos. It has inspired me to
start taking more pictures and hopefully I'll have an album to share soon.

Re: Looking for Advice/frantziebazile

2008-07-13 07:02:44

I think you should try some other styles. The tension of pulling the
hair back regulary may be causing some breakage, especially if pulled
tightly. Try coils, twists, twist outs are probably beautiful with
all your thick natural hair.
As for the naysayers, try having a heart to heart with your closest
family and friends. People that really care will care about your
feelings. Ask them why something that is naturally provided to you
from God is so crazy? Point out to them that embracing your natural
tresses can't be more crazy than pouring drano on your head (one of
the main ingredients in relaxers is one of the main ingredients in
drano). And, why is it such a bother to them that you choose to not
relax your hair? Often, our friends and family make crazy and
unintentional hurtful comments out of ignorance and fear. Some of my
naysayer family and friends have started transitioning to natural in
the last 6 months after bugging me with questions. Remember, some of
us started with press n curl as young as three and then went straight
to relaxers . . . .natural is foreign to many of us.
Two books to check out to help you on your journey and to deal with
others . . .Where Beauty Touches Me and Our Hairstory.
And remember you have all of us at naturally you to encourage you when
you need boosting.

[Naturally You! eCommunity] Updated Fotki Album-Catrina

2008-07-13 04:24:28

Hi Catrina--

Thanks for the compliment. You're right--locs are a big commitment, but if you decide to do it, you have a lot of support and maintenance ideas from all of us.

Tobi
Catrina <young_mom_25@...

Your locs are long, nice and healthy. I really like they way they look. I wanted to try some locs but I'm so afraid to committing to some that is so permanent. Maybe one day I will stop being such a baby and go for it. I don't know. Maybe

Trina

[Naturally You! eCommunity] product questions

2008-07-12 23:56:11

....just a couple of them...is lanolin a bad or good thing for the
hair? I don't really know what it does..also, what other purpose is ACV
used for besides being a clarifier?

[Naturally You! eCommunity] Updated Fotki Album-Tobi

2008-07-12 15:27:14

Your locs are long, nice and healthy. I really like they way they look. I wanted to try some locs but I'm so afraid to committing to some that is so permanent. Maybe one day I will stop being such a baby and go for it. I don't know. Maybe

Trina

nappy and colorful

2008-07-12 10:40:27

you make some good points. but what about the adults that continue to
make hateful comments about skin tone or hair or size or whatever? i
have a real problem with people that have nothing nice to say to or
about anyone. they may hate themselve but damn keep your hatred to
yourself is what i want to say to them sometimes. i have self-love,
self esteem issues myself...major ones...but i don't go around
disrespecting everyone i come in contact with.
the kids that go around saying mean things to other kids get it from
the adults around them. they might even get told the same things that
they tell other children. and that's sad.
forgive me y'all...this kind of thing just gets under my skin.
'kay i'm done ranting...carry on ladies.
:)

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Judge Mablean Ephraim

2008-07-12 04:53:54

REALLY??!!! I Loved Lynne Brown!! Was she fired also because of
hair-related issues? Who else (african-american woman) is left on fox
and will she have to worry about losing her job also? Not only is nappy
hair taboo for the tv-news industry, but, they're getting on permies
too??!!

[Naturally You! eCommunity] Updated Fotki Album-Catrina

2008-07-12 01:28:39

Catrina--

Your daughter's hair is really beautiful!

Tobi
Catrina <young_mom_25@...

I really hope you are right. I'm just glad that she has the chance to see the women today with natural hair along with permed hair. Plus I'm making it my mission to show her how versatile her hair is in its natural state. So only time will tell. I've also added some new pictures to her album along with adding a new album for my youngest daughter. So take a look if you get a chance.
http://public.fotki.com/newnappymom25/
Tobi-Velicia Johnson <tvelicia@...

[Naturally You! eCommunity] Updated Fotki Album-Tobi

2008-07-11 12:08:45

I really hope you are right. I'm just glad that she has the chance to see the women today with natural hair along with permed hair. Plus I'm making it my mission to show her how versatile her hair is in its natural state. So only time will tell. I've also added some new pictures to her album along with adding a new album for my youngest daughter. So take a look if you get a chance.

http://public.fotki.com/newnappymom25/
Tobi-Velicia Johnson <tvelicia@...

Updated Fotki Album - Kim

2008-07-11 07:39:08

I really can't wait to see what you have done to your hair. I'm a little excited.

Trina

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] what are Box Braids

2008-07-11 01:39:10

thanks LV - I love the box braids - they are very versatile - I twist em, cornrow em, curl em - its helpul for me to visualize how I can style my locs, which I may start with braids...

Blessings, Lina

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Judge Mablean Ephraim Leaves Divorce Court: D...

2008-07-11 00:39:09

I am very upset that they are taking Judge Mablean Ephrain. Fox has done the same thing to Lynne Brown.

Judge Mablean Ephraim Leaves Divorce Court: Dispute with Fox

2008-07-10 20:10:07

*****Please read the issues which she had w/ Fox in regards to her hair - and it's not even "happily natural".

'Divorce Court' Judge Mablean Ephraim Discusses Details of Recent Separation
from Show
LOS ANGELES--Popular television "Divorce Court" Judge Mablean Ephraim held a
press conference at the Los Angeles Sentinel
Judge Mablean Ephraim Statement
Good morning. Thank you all for coming. I called this press conference
today to address the issue of my departure from Fox Television as the Judge
of Divorce Court. It is true. I will no longer be the Judge of Divorce
Court as of the Fall Season, 2006. However, it is not true that I "decided
to step down after seven years".
The truth is that Fox and I were unable to reach an agreement, after several
months of negotiations. I was willing to stay. Fox was unwilling to pay.
After seven years of a successful show run, the deal Fox offered me was
substantially less than all of the other court show judges. Though I made
several offers of reduction from my initial demand, in an effort to reach a
settlement, Fox remained firm in its "low-ball offer" and finally, its
"take- or -leave it offer" which contained a very small increase from its
initial position, coupled with some other unreasonable demands. Fox took
the position that in order to receive this small increase (which was still
unequal); there would be "significant production changes". I simply
requested equal pay for equal work. Is this too much to ask?
The most unacceptable demand to me was when Fox said, "There will be no
changes in the current hairstyle to avoid time consuming issues regarding
her hair," I found this to be offensive. The requirement also comes very
close to a violation, if it does not in fact violate, the Fair Employment
Practices Act. An employer cannot demand one to wear a particular hairstyle
unless it directly affects or impacts the employee's ability to perform his
or her employment duties. My hairstyle does not meet this criteria, it is,
however, a racial and ethnic issue. Suddenly, after seven years of a show
that has run neck- in- neck with the other top rated court shows, why is my
hair an issue. Why, I ask? Because of my ethnicity - African American,
Black, Negro, whatever term you prefer to use. Because of my genetics
(short, curly, hair) which requires the use of chemicals and/or a hot
pressing comb to straighten and curlers to style. It cannot be styled by a
wash, blow dry and set. Therefore, in Fox's opinion, it is a time consuming
issue. I wore a short hairstyle which was my own hair. Due to a
misapplication of a chemical process, I lost a substantial amount of hair in
season six. Out of my desire to maintain continuity, and the image I had
created (for the last five years), I elected to wear a wig last year for
continuity. Had Fox asked me to maintain a short hairstyle for continuity
and for image, it would have been a different issue. But they are saying I
must continue to wear the wig because that would expedite the hair styling
process. However, my hair has now grown. I had not yet decided what
hairstyle I would wear for season eight. If I were to accept their demands,
I would have been unable to make that decision.
I therefore ask the question, when will Fox and the rest of America accept
our cultural differences as African Americans and embrace us with all of our
different hairstyles, hair textures, hair color, skin color, skin
differences, whatever it may be? We take the time to learn about them, to
learn about the different cultures in our society. They however have still
chosen to neglect us, to disrespect us, and refuse to see us. We are still
the invisible person. The fact that it takes more time to style my hair than
my Caucasian sisters, in general, should not be an issue. What is more
interesting about this demand is that I have never caused time to be an
issue because of my hair. I have been conscious and aware of the fact that
it does take more time to style my hair. Therefore, I set my call time
earlier than any of the other staff to assure that I was ready in time for
the schedule. More importantly, I had the chemical work done off the set at
my expense. The only thing that had to be done on set was the pressing and
styling. It has worked for seven years. There were several other demands,
which in my opinion would diminish the quality of the show.
Tape seven shows per day (sometimes eight), instead of six. In meeting with
Fox executives early this season, we had discussed seven shows. I indicated
at that time that I could not do this effectively and produce quality shows.
Divorce is a very emotional issue. For me, when I am handling these shows
it's not about entertainment, it's about making life changing differences in
the lives of those standing before me. As well as ultimately the viewers.
Divorce has a lot of issues and you see them on Divorce Court, but they
affect all of us race, color, creed, regardless of economic status. The
issues that we addressed on Divorce Court affects America.
No vacation time during tape schedule. My national church convocation in
November is the only vacation I take during tape season. Will I now not be
allowed to observe my religious practice? "This was non-negotiable for me.
I believe this infringes on my freedom of religious belief? The other
times-off from taping were promotional appearances. These I did at the
request of the civic groups, schools, churches, women groups, and non-profit
organizations such as the Tom Joyner Foundation Fantastic Voyage, which
benefits Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCU's) based on my
celebrity status. These were engagements which came by my publicist,
personal assistant, and me. They promoted DIVORCE COURT.
It was work, not vacation. More importantly, the majority of them were
done on weekends, or nights and did not interfere with the taping of Divorce
Court schedule. However, FOX did not appreciate this and insisted that I would be unable to make these appearances during the tape schedule. There were several other issues related to the tape schedule and taping itself which were unfair to the staff and crew of Divorce Court, as well as me. For instance, "we no longer will be able to pay for the holiday luncheon" stated Fox. Divorce Court has one catered meal the entire season, the Christmas holiday luncheon, before hiatus. This would be cut out if I
were to be paid the small increase. This would not be fair to the staff and crew.
Not only have I been impacted but my personal assistant Princess and my
daughter, Darlene Allen. Darlene was head of the wardrobe department. She
too now has been terminated. I bring up these issues not out of the desire
to seek any legal actions toward Fox, but to raise awareness, to appreciate
cultural differences, and diversity.
I thank Fox for the last seven years, for the opportunity, for the exposure.
I also thank Fox for refusing to pay me what I know I was worth. It set me
free to ascend to higher ground. To go beyond before. I firmly believe
that God has a better plan for my life.
I thank my family, my friends, my fellow church members, and my fans. Thank
you for your love and support. Thank you for watching Divorce Court. Thank
you for allowing me into your homes, your lives, and your hearts for seven
years. Don't shut off that dial. Keep watching, I have not left. Eyes
have not seen, ears have not heard, what good things God has in store for
me. Stay tuned for more. In the words of Maya Angelou, "And still I rise."

nappy and colorful

2008-07-10 14:43:35

I totally agree with you. I mean this whole light skin dark skin thing needs to stop. Growning up was very difficult for me as well. The sad part is people called me light skin but I am a mulatto.and I was skinny too and got called all kinds names. My co-worker has issues like this, her daughter is Janet Jackson complexion and she tells her that she is light skin. It just surprises me how our people are still tripping over color.

Topaz <mstopaz04@...

i think it's sad that we still dog each other based on appearance
(sp). i'm light skinned...and when i was in school i got called 'high
yellow ho', 'halfbreed' even though both of my parents are black, and
worse. i'm also a size 0. so i hear hatefull comments about thin
women all the time. got called 'tooth pick' and 'bean pole' (among
other things), and was even told that i was shaped like a 'white
girl'. i guess because i don't have big round 't' and 'a'. got
called 'wanna be white' too. guess that one was because i speak
'proper' english.
when i went natural noone really made any comments...at least to my
face anyway. i've had a hair 'stylist' not be able to cut my
hair...and told me that people with 'my kind of hair' should keep it
real short. i thought that comment was interesting seeing as this
person makes a living doing people's hair. as far as the 'men' go...i
really don't give a damn (i'm keeping it clean y'all) what any of them
think about how i look. i don't knock myself out trying to attract
anyone anyway. i do what pleases me, and i kind of like being invisible.
can't wait to hear the 'comments' when i lock my hair. hope there
ready for my response...'cause i probably won't be kind with it.
:)

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Hair Dryers

2008-07-10 00:39:09

I use babybliss relax and shine for afro and curly hair

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Natural Hair Stand Still

2008-07-10 00:38:46

Check out Carol's daughter products. Khoret Amen hair oil and leave in conditioner should work.

God Bless

Storme

nappy and colorful

2008-07-09 19:25:01

Well Said!!
I think we have to be careful what we place in our own individual minds because as a woman thinketh...so it is. I read a quote once about how people say to us the very things we hold in our subconscious mind. Let's take India.Arie for example. She makes it her business to let the world know that yes, I've been through some things but through it all I've learned to love myself TOTALLY. She is not mainstream Hollywood, but people embrace her because she embraces herself.

I think sometimes WE THINK that other people THINK that we're ugly, nappy headed, too light, too dark, whatever. And that may be true but what do WE THINK about ourselves? What I've realized is that we all products of our childhood. As a child I thought I was awkward, ugly, all that, but as an adult I realize that as a child we are hard on ourselves. As children we say mean things to each other. As children, we speak without thinking. As children we want to fit in. As children we're sensitive to any and every comment about us. But as adults, we have to forgive the children who said bad things about us because guess what? They were just kids being kids. As an adult we must forgive ourselves for being less than what we thought society expected of us. We must first forgive ourselves and love ourselves.

It's not always about slavery. It's about right here and right now. Our ancestors go waaaay back, before slavery as Kings and Queens forreal! I'm still learning this myself. But regardless of what WAS, we have to deal with what IS and that's the person we look at everyday in the mirror.

Be Blessed,
Kareema
Wash, DC

Jessica Nicholson

jazzme77@...

[INLINE]

nappy and colorful

2008-07-09 11:59:48

Hi Topaz--

I totally understand the size issue--I'm 40 years old now and still in a 0! Just like I accept my hair in its natural state, I accept my size, appearance and I accept others. Our diversity in size, shape, color, hair texture makes all black women beautiful.

By the way, I'm dark-skinned, but I've been called 'white girl' because of the way I speak as well. When will our people stop finding things to divide and conquer ourselves?

Tobi
Topaz <mstopaz04@...

i think it's sad that we still dog each other based on appearance
(sp). i'm light skinned...and when i was in school i got called 'high
yellow ho', 'halfbreed' even though both of my parents are black, and
worse. i'm also a size 0. so i hear hatefull comments about thin
women all the time. got called 'tooth pick' and 'bean pole' (among
other things), and was even told that i was shaped like a 'white
girl'. i guess because i don't have big round 't' and 'a'. got
called 'wanna be white' too. guess that one was because i speak
'proper' english.
when i went natural noone really made any comments...at least to my
face anyway. i've had a hair 'stylist' not be able to cut my
hair...and told me that people with 'my kind of hair' should keep it
real short. i thought that comment was interesting seeing as this
person makes a living doing people's hair. as far as the 'men' go...i
really don't give a damn (i'm keeping it clean y'all) what any of them
think about how i look. i don't knock myself out trying to attract
anyone anyway. i do what pleases me, and i kind of like being invisible.
can't wait to hear the 'comments' when i lock my hair. hope there
ready for my response...'cause i probably won't be kind with it.
:)

nappy and colorful

2008-07-09 07:26:09

I think we have to be careful what we place in our own individual minds because as a woman thinketh...so it is. I read a quote once about how people say to us the very things we hold in our subconscious mind. Let's take India.Arie for example. She makes it her business to let the world know that yes, I've been through some things but through it all I've learned to love myself TOTALLY. She is not mainstream Hollywood, but people embrace her because she embraces herself.

I think sometimes WE THINK that other people THINK that we're ugly, nappy headed, too light, too dark, whatever. And that may be true but what do WE THINK about ourselves? What I've realized is that we all products of our childhood. As a child I thought I was awkward, ugly, all that, but as an adult I realize that as a child we are hard on ourselves. As children we say mean things to each other. As children, we speak without thinking. As children we want to fit in. As children we're sensitive to any and every comment about us. But as adults, we have to forgive the children who said bad things about us because guess what? They were just kids being kids. As an adult we must forgive ourselves for being less than what we thought society expected of us. We must first forgive ourselves and love ourselves.

It's not always about slavery. It's about right here and right now. Our ancestors go waaaay back, before slavery as Kings and Queens forreal! I'm still learning this myself. But regardless of what WAS, we have to deal with what IS and that's the person we look at everyday in the mirror.

Be Blessed,

Kareema

Wash, DC

transitioning -@ Jolie

2008-07-08 23:50:54

Go Jolie! Go Jolie! LOL [INLINE]
"J. Hardeman" <moo_972001@...

Hi Ladies,
Ok, I was in the same position as you guys. I had gone 4 months
without a relaxer and it just kept getting harder to maintain. I
had to used 4 different products for each type of hair. So on The
4th of July, I just looked in the mirror and decided I needed
to "get independent" and make up my mind. I didn't want to straddle
the fence any longer. So I took the scissors and "stopped"! I then
talked with myself and said, "life is too short and there will be no
regrets". So I started cutting the relaxer off. I cut off 6-7
inches of my hair that night. Albeit, my hair was uneven, but I
actually liked it. The next day, I went to the beauty shop and had
it shaped up (which I wasn't impressed with it), BUT it is still
nice and I do not miss my relaxed hair. I have gotten some
compliments, some ugly looks (from my mother) and just the plain
ole' "what made you do that?" But I don't care, just be prepared
for "no turning back". It is actually pretty cool, having short
hair. You will be surprised on how much you will like it!
Good Luck & Peace & Blessings.....Jolie

Re: nappy and colorful

2008-07-08 14:40:56

i think it's sad that we still dog each other based on appearance
(sp). i'm light skinned...and when i was in school i got called 'high
yellow ho', 'halfbreed' even though both of my parents are black, and
worse. i'm also a size 0. so i hear hatefull comments about thin
women all the time. got called 'tooth pick' and 'bean pole' (among
other things), and was even told that i was shaped like a 'white
girl'. i guess because i don't have big round 't' and 'a'. got
called 'wanna be white' too. guess that one was because i speak
'proper' english.
when i went natural noone really made any comments...at least to my
face anyway. i've had a hair 'stylist' not be able to cut my
hair...and told me that people with 'my kind of hair' should keep it
real short. i thought that comment was interesting seeing as this
person makes a living doing people's hair. as far as the 'men' go...i
really don't give a damn (i'm keeping it clean y'all) what any of them
think about how i look. i don't knock myself out trying to attract
anyone anyway. i do what pleases me, and i kind of like being invisible.
can't wait to hear the 'comments' when i lock my hair. hope there
ready for my response...'cause i probably won't be kind with it.
:)

Re: Great Fokti Album

2008-07-08 10:47:40

This wasn't directed at me at all, but I definitely feel you! My
people keep cracking jokes about me and my music. My ONLY ringtone
on my cell is "You're Beautiful" by James Blunt. I hear comments
from, Uh that's pretty deep kimmy, snicker... to just straight WTF is
that you listen to?
My hubby made a cd that i love that ranges from The Animals "House of
the Rising Sun", to Nickelback, to Evanesence, to Take Six, Mary J,
eminem's "Ass like that", to Zeppelin.
I swear I believe you should listen to whatever!! C'mon in the 80's
we all listened to the same stuff, and I did not need Run DMC to
introduce me to Aerosmith via Walk This Way. I already knew about
them...
Hey who remembers that song from the early 80's that was the vowels?
The whole song was just A...A...A..E.I.O.U.............and sometimes
YYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!
Kimmy

Check Out Infinite MagaZine’s second issue- It’s a Hot One!!!

2008-07-08 09:47:15

Peace Everyone:
We're on fire this issue- see for yourself at: www.infinitemag.net
In this issue:
1. Spinderella- Radio Personality
2. Monie Love- B-Day Party Coverage
3. Pantene Totally You Tour- Event Coverage
4. Real Men Cook-Event Coverage
5. Turae- Comedian
6. Redz- Rare Essentric Designz
7. Unsung Hero
8. Dwayne McCulley- Death To Diabetes
9. RhapsodE- Spoken Inward
10. EE Kelly- Irresistible Women
11. Latoya Figeroa Foundation
12. Cathy Harris- How To Take Control Of Your Own Life
13. Sammie Ward- In The Name Of Love
Always Infinite,
I-Mag

Re: [Naturally You! eCommunity] Fine Hair

2008-07-07 18:37:18

i never had to transition but i do have fine hair (i think) my biggest issue is holding a style. my hair is really soft. my braids are fuzzy in a week and extensions side out of my hair. i have found that my fuzzy hair actually complements two stand twist, also puffs and fros work also. my hair tends to be less hard and dry than others, but the good news is your curl pattern amy be easier to define
love and other indoor sports
kitty smith
(kitty's quotes of the week)
He was a karate expert, but one day he joined the army, saluted, and killed himself.
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Last week I stated this woman was the ugliest woman I had ever seen.